The depth of love can be measured by our efforts. We demonstrate our love when we take that extra step.'
-Harville Hendrix, M.D.
Enjoying a healthy relationship can be one of life's greatest joys and at the same time, one of life's greatest challenges. Yet, most of us wonder, what does it take to nurture and sustain a fulfilling relationship when one person has a physical challenge and the other person takes on the role of a caregiver?
Experience is not what happens to a man.
It is what a man does with what happens to him.
— Aldous Huxley
What if the only resolution you made this year was to love and listen to yourself more?
From the time when we were little children, we have been trained to look outside ourselves for answers—to our parents and in the world around us. We can train ourselves to look within. This inner strength often is reached only in times of crisis. Then we realize that we can, of ourselves, do nothing except turn over our problems to a higher power. As long as we are trying to find solutions with our own strength, determination, and intelligence, we are not successful on a permanent basis.
So we repeat our mistakes over and over in new ways.
“The habit of giving only enhances the desire to give.” — Walt Whitman
My two cats, Lucy and Sasha, have been wonderful teachers for me. During the day, they take turns grooming each other. It’s all a process of giving and receiving. Sasha lavishes Lucy with her attention, and Lucy does the same for Sasha. As they close their eyes and purr, each one appears to savor the giving as much as the receiving. What’s more, when I watch them very closely, I observe there is an element of “caring” and “sharing.” While one gives unconditionally, the other patiently receives and basks in the glory of the moment. What a gift, to be able to observe such a wonderful practice!
Linda Noble Topf is dedicated to assisting others in seeing that chronic illness, debilitating injury, or any kind of adversity in any stage of life, can be viewed as a spiritual awakening, and an opportunity for personal growth.